Children are a wonderful gift, but they are very delicate and it is often easy for them to feel unappreciated or ignored. As parents, it is very important to make sure our children are growing up happy and confident, and to do that we must make sure they feel special, appreciated, and loved. By recognising their accomplishments and encouraging them to be proud of themselves, we can help them to develop confidence and a sense of achievement that will last them the rest of their lives. In this week’s edition of parenting tips, we highlight 10 ways to improve your child’s self esteem.
1. Children who have lots of positive experiences and positive things said to them will have healthy levels of self esteem, as opposed to children who have many negative experiences growing up.
2. Children need to be recognised and admired. They are important to us and important in the world. Tell them this!
3. Praise children for the efforts they make. The focus should not be on the end result. Children remember praise and it has long-lasting effects.
4. Compliment children on their appearance, how they are doing at school, with friends and with hobbies. Every child is special and should know this.
5. Notice your children’s strengths and tell them what they are. Help them understand how to use those strengths well.
6. Show your child you are so proud of them and the effort they make – to play, to share, to eat dinner etc.
7. Have special time with your child each day and let them know they are top of your list. The feeling of self worth will be enormous.
8. Encourage children to be proud of their own achievements.
9. Encourage children to be open about what strengths they have and also that we all can’t be good at everything. Help them accept they are human, and it is normal to have strengths and weaknesses.
10. Be respectful of children. Talk with them, not at them. Listen to them and hear what they are trying to say. Understand their behaviours and why they exist rather than trying to just fix them. Admire their qualities, even those which are challenging can be used in positive ways throughout life. Accept your child for who they are and tell them everyday how much you love and admire them.
This week’s ’10 Ways to’ is by One Family’s Director of Children and Parenting Services, Geraldine Kelly.
Coming soon: 10 Ways to Support Your Child’s Sex Education; 10 Ways to Survive Sleepless Nights; 10 Ways to Encourage Healthy Eating.
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