Consistency is vital to teaching your children that all behaviour breeds a reaction and whether that reaction is good or bad depends on how they choose to act. Enabling them to make good choices by being consistent in your reaction is a powerful tool in handling difficult behaviour.
- Consistency is one of the most important factors in successful parenting.
- A child who knows that their parent always follows through on what they say is more likely to choose a positive behavior.
- Making better choices makes a child’s life easier and supports him/her in developing responsibility.
- Inconsistency can cause children to feel unimportant, insecure and confused.
- Routines offer predictability and stability for children.
- It is impossible to change all behaviours at once.
- Focus on one behaviour, either positive or negative, that you would like to change.
- Children’s behaviour will not change overnight. Be patient with yourself and with your child.
- Remember that if you have changed your behaviour from being someone who didn’t follow through to being a parent who means what they say then it will take your child time to react to this change and bring about change in their own behaviour.
- Sometimes children will respond well and quickly to change, and then gradually drift back to old ways. Do not despair, this is normal. Remain firm, calm and consistent until the new behaviour becomes the norm.
This article is part of our weekly ’10 Ways to’ series of parenting tips, and is by One Family’s Director of Children and Parenting Services, Geraldine Kelly. Coming up Next Week: 10 ways to Help your Children Express Their Emotions and the Importance of Play.
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Next you might like to read: 10 Reasons Why Children Misbehave and The Power of Positive Attention
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